To give or to receive?


Many a times in our daily life, we have to give something to others, if lucky we receive something may be in return. What we give may be love,care or anything monetary or materialistic. However the mind longs for something in return. Giving something to others may not be out of choice, "we ought to" or "we can give" or sometimes "on an occasion" (gifts).

The human mind expects things, no one can differ on this thought, but the question I have at this juncture is that "What do we do when we get nothing in return and we are always the giver?"
Think for a moment and give me an answer.

If you are saintly/a (highly)good hearted soul, then you'd probably be saying "keep doing the same, dont expect anything from others. you are being good and you are happy seeing others happy! " (More so if you are a woman, needless to say, everyone says a woman should have no happiness on her own, it should be collective and in the favor of the entire household , bull****!!!!)


If you a normal person then your reply would be Keep on giving till you can, when you reach the break even point, stop and say thats it and walk off.


There is also a third way to approach this, why not let the receivers know that they are doing nothing in return and that they can repay atleast to the minimal level they can?? And let them know this cannot continue in this fashion of one way giving for long (kind of warn them in a gentle tone). I like this one personally!


I might sound a little pissed off, but thats the current temperament I find lots of people in.
Steam off , poor me!!!

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

So brave of you to put this down, without mincing as many words! Our parents, I know, are still stuck deep in the first approach.. the only thing they ever got in return is ingratitude and attitude.Wonder how one would implement the third approach, without fear of offending the other party.. I mean, not that they are totally unaware of what they are doing, but I prefer to keep quiet than confront and undergo a lot of anguish.
I don't like it when people feel "entitled" to all they are given and feel they owe nothing back. Still, I'm afraid to talk about it in general, for fear of hurting the feelings of those concerned.I'm sure many of us at some point have wished we could do something about it.Sometimes I think I should stop expecting, and that everything will automatically turn for the better, but I'm not able to.

Hope you get some insightful inputs on this, good entry by the way, very well written. You have a way with words.

Love,
Me

Carpe Diem said...

i too like the last one :) .
BTW thanks for visiting my blog..

ambulisamma said...

Very well written post.
But why no posts in recent pasts?

ANBARASAN said...

Good post! As you said ‘a woman should have no happiness on her own, it should be collective and in the favor of the entire household’ is a sheer stupidity. God has created men to give and woman to receive according to the bible. Let everyone understand this and don’t expect woman to make sacrifices and instead give her freedom, respect, love etc.,