THE BEAUTY OF OLD WOMEN

When I was flipping through the pages of an old book I came across this wonderful quote by Harriet Beecher Stowe
"So much has been said and sung of beautiful young girls, why don't somebody wake up to the beauty of old women?"

So much truth in this expression. I particularly love women who are aged - be it Indians or women from any part of the globe who carry themselves very well. I met an old lady in a very small village recently, she is over 90 years- she still toils in the little bit of agricultural land that she owns, has never been to the doctor at all - she has 3 children, all of them educated and settled in different parts of the country. She also told me that she took care of her delivery all by herself! WOW!! I asked her for her name, she said you can call me paati (thats how you say grandmother in tamizh). Her husband, as she recalls was'nt a great contributor to the family's wellness. So she had to take charge all life and she says she doesnt remember a day in her life when she didnt work! She still takes care of her mom in law, another wonderful lady who is a little over 120 years!! This mother in law chose to live with her daughter in law rather than her son, who has another family and lives in another village few miles away. Such brave ladies - I was dumbstruck at their guts and courage! So much to learn from such woman - in this day where we sulk and fret over trivial things, these woman have taken things so light and are still working so hard at this age!!
There is this signboard somewhere in richmond road which has an old lady posing for a diamond jeweller - I simply adore her confidence,charm and glow. The signboard simply beats anything thats made attractive with younger men and women, I feel. The person on the signboard really does carry herself very well I should say!

Begining with the women we meet at home like our grand aunts,grand mothers and even our mothers - there is a inexplainable beauty in whatever they do. Sometimes in their courage, sometimes in theway they keep the home spic and span, the way they cook, they organize, they aid the family by working apart from home etc.

Every young woman today is in the process of aging gracefully, and to all those lovely woman, there's just one thing I want to say - beauty is not in spotless skin,an hourglass figure or expensive clothes but its in the way you take life and manage it with those special qualities that only we are blessed with called love,patience and courage!

28 comments:

.:: மை ஃபிரண்ட் ::. said...

சூப்பர் பாட்டி. அந்த காலத்து காரங்க இப்போதும் ஏதாவது ஒரு வேலை செஞ்சிட்டேதான் இருக்காங்க.. சின்ன வயசுலே இருந்து உழைச்சுட்டே இருந்தவங்கல்ல. என் பாட்டியும் அப்படித்தான். :-)

Deekshanya said...

@My Friend:
Thanks for stopping by and commenting. //என் பாட்டியும் அப்படித்தான்// I guess almost everyone in that generation did a lot of justice to their wellbeing and health! Lots of things to learn from them !!!

.:: மை ஃபிரண்ட் ::. said...

//@My Friend:
Thanks for stopping by and commenting.//

என்னங்க இப்படி பெரிய பெரிய வார்த்தையெல்லாம் சொல்லிக்கிட்டு. :-))

.:: மை ஃபிரண்ட் ::. said...

தட்டியாச்சு.. :-))

ஜிடால்க்ல. :-)

Shuba said...

Hey deeks,

i have started a couple of new blogs ill be there.if i cud have yr email id i wud mail them :)

Shuba

Arunkumar said...

enna nyabagam irukka ?

super post abt paatis.. took me to the times i spent with my grandmother... they are so adorable..

Compassion Unlimitted said...

Hats off and well said..
In everyones theres a patti who has done wonders and mostly silently !!
TC
CU

Deekshanya said...

@Shubha - Sure will hop onto your new blog sometime today. Just sent a mail to you! Goodluck on the new blogs!!

Deekshanya said...

@ArunKumar - Enna ipdi ketutinga? Cincinnati Arunna chinna kolanthaiketta kooda soluthu!! Epdi irukinga, romba naal aachu.. Thanks for ciming this way. DO come agn!
Cheers
Deeksh

Deekshanya said...

@compassion unlimited - Romba thanks inga vanthu unga comment sonathuku! Kandipa everyone must have seen atleast 1 paati who is a true champion in life. Agree with you.
Cheers
Deeksh

நிவிஷா..... said...

Nice post..
Read somewhere.. Aging is a privilege. not everyone gets the chance..

நட்புடன்
நிவிஷா

Deekshanya said...

@நிவிஷா - Indeed aging is a privilege! BTW your name is nice and different. Keep coming when u can. have a great day.
Cheers
Deeksh!

நிவிஷா..... said...

//keep coming when u can. have a great day.//
Thanks :) and glad u liked my name..
I have posted a new post.. do visit :)

நட்புடன்
நிவிஷா

Raj said...

Deekshanya,
Aged people are like matured child.
They know the facts by experience and behave as child due to physical nature.
That was a nice article.
I thought about my grandma....
my holidays in grandma's old house in village...Unforgettable days.
Raj.

Deekshanya said...

@raj -//That was a nice article.// romba thanks!
//I thought about my grandma....
my holidays in grandma's old house in village...Unforgettable days.//
I am so glad this post rekindled your memories with your grandmother.
Cheers
Deeksh

Dubukku said...

ரொம்ப சரி...வயோதிகத்திலும் ஒரு அழகு இருக்கும்...அதிலும் சிலருக்கு இருக்கும் முதிர்ச்சியும், கம்பீரமும் நம்பிக்கையும்...மிக அழகா இருக்கும்

Deekshanya said...

@Dubukku -
//வயோதிகத்திலும் ஒரு அழகு இருக்கும்// unmai unmai!!

//முதிர்ச்சியும், கம்பீரமும் நம்பிக்கையும்...மிக அழகா இருக்கும்// :-)

take care,
Deeksh!

இராம்/Raam said...

Good Post...... :) Nalla ezuthi irukkeenga...:)

C.N.Raj said...

Hi Deekshanya,

Take a look at my new blog.

C.N.Raj.

Zulu said...

Good Post

Anonymous said...

ithennanga ora vanjanai...youthla ponnungala pugazhnthu thalli kavithai mazhai kotrom..ok nyayam..vaysanaprumum avangala pathi matumaye ipdi reel reela post podrathu aniyayms of asia..infact old agela emotionala adipadrathu aangal thaangarathu my opinion..aayiram thaan male chauvinista youthla suthinalum vayasanaprum rejectiongaratha thaangikara alavuku thaathaasku mental strength irukumaana doubt thaan...paatis flow like water and dry out their elder life..but thaathas paavam..head of the familyngara proud place lenthu...just another member waiting to move from "in" box to "out" boxngara stagea handle panrathu konjam kashtamnu thonuthu...Again..maleskaaga varinjukatikitu varalanga..oru stageku mela..issues are no longer gender specific but rather age specificnu thonithu..athaan commentinen..

~gils

Deekshanya said...

Gils,நீங்க சொல்றது சரி, ஒரு காலகட்டத்துல gender எல்லாம் கடந்து போய் பார்க்கிற பக்குவம் வந்திடும். ஏன் வயசான பெண்களின் அழகுப் பத்தி மட்டும் எழுதினேன்னா, நம்ம societyல இன்னைக்கும் "கைம்பெண்" என்ற வார்த்தை மட்டும்தான் உபயோகத்தில் இருக்கு.துணையே இல்லாதபோது சாதிக்கும் போது ஒரு பெண்னை பாராட்டாம இருக்க முடியலை! ஆண்கள் by default சாதிப்பாங்க, எல்லா நேரத்திலும், அதையும் உலகம் உடனே கண்டுகொள்ளும்! இதுல ஆச்சரியம் என்ன..

Be it men or women, those who live as an example to others should be respected and brought to the notice of others , I feel!

நன்றி
தீக்ஷ்

Compassion Unlimitted said...

What happened to the new postings ?
TC
CU

Anbusivam said...

Deekshanya,

Thanks for visiting my page and leaving your comments there. Thank You.

Here is what I wrote in my post:
http://anbusivam.blogspot.com/2007/08/humanculture-vs-agriculture.html

//After publishing my earlier post on Leadership = Gardening , I had been to an interior village in Tamilnadu to attend one of my cousins family function. Every time I go there I would say the amount of knowledge and wisdom I get is always in abundance. Yeah, it’s from an 80yrs old Granny nearby. The way she interacts with people is amazing and I’ve never seen such a person in our great corporate houses. Lessons one could learn from her can never be found in any best sellers or from great management gurus. It had come all the way from her 80yrs of lively experience in that small village. She could relate any personal relation with agriculture and cultivation. Here, I am posting few of my learning’s form our Granny’s wisdom.//

Yes, Elderly Women are always graceful...!!!

Narasimhan said...

Deekshanya

Really good post. Nice words of thought. Our paati's though uneducated, are efficient. Tamil paati's vaazhga.

Narasimhan said...

@Deekshanya
By the way ,Thanks for ur words of support . Thanks a lot.

Ghost Particle said...

hello deekshanya...thanks for coming. :) you write so well...love the tamil posts. :)

Ghost Particle said...

beautiful post. captured the essence of it superbly.

hi, yeppadi irukinge? been long since i dropped by. will frequent more.